Is there a correlation between the rise of “hookup” sites like tinder and the increase in STDs? How do you ask your new partner about their sexual health? Or, are we just a more hyper-sexualized society that just throws caution to the wind when it comes to protecting ourselves? Well, I’m not quite sure which is the right answer. However, we can take a look at a smaller sample size in the state of California, more specifically the county of Los Angeles for some possible answers.
Current studies are indicating that theses stds, chlamydia, gonorrhea and syphilis have consistently been the highest infections in California. This a real concern! It is also a difficult conversation to have or bring up with your partner. Now I’m not going to dedicate this space to exploring our sexual health, rather, it is the psychological effect that contracting an STD has on a person that I want to address in this blog.
Have you considered what happens to a person when they learn that they have an STD? What I have witnessed take place with many clients is that suddenly their emotional state of mind becomes unstable, their anxiety rises, and eventually depression follows. Simply put, the dominoes begin to fall. Rarely, do I get the client when they are newly diagnosed, rather, they have already been battling the depression, anxiety, and accompanying stress for quite some time.
In reality, when people receive their diagnosis, life is never the same again. This is extremely difficult to wrap their heads around. Many times, this revelation of a sexually transmitted disease literally brings to light previously undetected, repressed, or eschewed mental illnesses.
On the opposite spectrum, my experience with some teenagers and some adults has been a interesting choice to pursue extreme sexual activity with the knowledge that they are suffering from the effects of their mental illness related to their contracted STDs. Remember, depression can cause isolation, break off connections and make one feel like they are the proverbial “island.” The psychological impact of contracting an STD is far greater than what you think, so please think and educate yourself, partner, friends, and your family. To help, their are a number of good studies written here that I suggest you read, so click HERE
Millions suffer in silence knowing there is something wrong, still millions more suffer with the same symptoms, however, they don’t realize that they are in reality manic depressive. The statistics are alarming, very personal, and dramatically increasing. Are you affected by this mood disorder? Does someone in your family present with symptoms of a mood disorder? Does your neighbor, or roommate, maybe partner? Look around, it’s closer than you think.
I find that many of my clients really struggle hearing that they have a mood disorder. It really comes as a surprise at first, however, as we discuss the symptoms they begin to put the intricate missing pieces of their lives together. With time their doubts and fears turn to relief and understanding. To finally have some answers to their behavior, to make some sense of their patterns of erratic outbursts, their attraction to dangerous people, situations, and addictive habits can be illuminating and exhausting. So to is coming to grips with why the multitude of projects often are started with the energy of a Walmart crowd on Thanksgiving Day, yet still remain unfinished…
If this is you or someone you know, there is hope. There is also effective treatments and therapy. Be warned that the daily path to healing is part highway, at times partially dirt road, some days it is cobblestone, and on particularly hard days it’s like walking on burning coals.
I want you to be educated about the “Ups and Downs” of this disorder. Finally, I want to personally thank one of our regular readers who personally reached out and shared this link.
What to know the stats, click HERE
Do you see the pattern here? Unchecked and unmedicated mental illness leads to a transference of anger that builds to a delusion full of hate that ultimately leads to unprovoked senseless violence. We have witnessed this play out, yet again, this time in Virginia. Two co-workers just doing their jobs on an early summer morning that ultimately turned horrific and has gone viral with the hope of causing a race war from the shooter’s intent.
The psyche of america is wearing thin with the constant violence, hatred, and civil unrest that has become so prevalent. How are you handling it? What are you telling your children about it, or are they even aware of it? Do you have a conversation about it with your partner, family etc, or is this topic avoided because it doesn’t affect you personally?
Tragically, this deals a psychic blow to the family, friends, and co-workers who knew Alison Parker and Adam Ward. Some, with time, therapy and possibly medication will come to terms with what has happened and move forward with their lives, but sadly, others will not be able to cope with this tragedy. As the investigation intensifies we discover a profoundly disturbed, psychologically impaired human being who was so angry, so hateful, deceitful, with no sense of accountability for his actions and no regard for human life.
Can you avoid this type of tragedy and recognize the signs? Start reading HERE
Eat everything on your plate! Let’s face it, in this day and age when every child receives a trophy just for showing up to play, plates are left full everywhere. We live in a different time, we have so many choices, our attention span is so limited, and we will eat only what and when we want. So, why should our kids be any different? They are picky just like us. Our little picky eaters, rather, I prefer to use the term being “selective” in what they consume has some very unwanted and unforeseen consequences. New research has revealed that this selective eating now can be linked children developing adhd, anxiety, and depression as they continue to mature. All this because they hate broccoli? Are you serious, well, yes I am…
Its more than just the broccoli, so read THIS
“The weather is so bipolar.” That singular phrase raised the hairs on the back of my neck. I was immediately reminded of the misuse of a common psychiatric term that perpetuates the stigma of mental illness. What people don’t realize is that it is inappropriate and it causes real harm. So many millions of people battle depression, schizophrenia, bipolar disorder and a host of other severe mental illnesses while millions more do not. Applying these psychiatric terms loosely to someone who exhibits a behavior that is quite opposite of what you might do, say, or think doesn’t mean they are ocd or bipolar, right? It seems that we preach the importance of political correctness in every aspect of our lives, however, we seem to forget it applies to mental illness, as well…
If you agree, read on. If you disagree, read THIS
We all have those awful, gut wrenching, everything we touch turns for the worse kind of days, ugh! I wish that I could say, “just get back up, brush yourself off, and everything will be great.” Unfortunately, we are not all wired that way, are we? As a therapist, I recognize that it is those negative self-doubts that whisper to us our most feared imperfections. These self-doubts, the negativity is what truly holds us back from moving forward from a “bad day.” Of course, there is some real science behind why we experience these kind of days, and just maybe it will help you understand why those around you have them too, or, maybe why they don’t seem to suffer from them like you do, hmm?
If you would like to be free from your next “bad day” READ here
If you suffer from mood disorders, especially Bipolar, and ever wonder why there seems to be more month than there is money at the end of each month, Huh? Research conducted at Stanford University has recently uncovered a fascinating relationship between earning power and bipolar disorder. This relationship has been played out in many a counseling session with clients who suffer with this debilitating mood disorder. It is as though they self sabotage their own success, some unknowingly, yet, others willfully, even defiantly. It has been referred to as the CEOs disease, maybe you have it….
To understand the relationship between earnings and bipolar disorder read HERE
Fighting Mental Illness on the Ball Field
Mental illness remains highly stigmatized, even after celebrities like Brooke Shields, Mel Gibson and Robin Williams went public with their stories. So it was really a big deal 60 years ago when the Boston Red Sox outfielder Jimmy Piersall wrote two articles in the Saturday Evening Post entitled “They Called Me Crazy—And I Was.” Mr. Piersall’s courageous description of his struggles with manic depression, now called bipolar disorder, helped bring the disease and its treatments out of the shadows.
That Mr. Piersall had mental illness was at first far from clear. He was born in 1929 to a mother who would later spend time in mental institutions. As a child, he had always been high strung and, as a slick-fielding minor league centerfielder in the Red Sox organization in the early 1950s, seemed incapable of relaxation.